What a great little book. It''s a small book, at least the copy I have is, which is a used paperback from 1999. It has about 40 less pages than the description states but I actually find that to be the case with many books I get from Amazon. It''s a nice size to hold in one...
What a great little book. It''s a small book, at least the copy I have is, which is a used paperback from 1999. It has about 40 less pages than the description states but I actually find that to be the case with many books I get from Amazon. It''s a nice size to hold in one hand and while it''s a thin and easy read, there''s actually a lot of great advice packed into this little book.
One disclaimer, I never buy books on dating, this is the first one, so I can''t compare it with any other dating books. I got it for two reasons: 1. Although I''ve practiced Buddhism for many years, I have recently devoted myself more than ever and want to make a conscious effort to keep my spiritual path in mind when meeting my future partner. 2. The other reason I got this book is because I have another book by the same author that I like a lot (If The Buddha Got Stuck) and so I knew exactly what style of book this would be - casual, down to earth advice from a generally but not exclusively Buddhist perspective. It''s the type of book you can open to any chapter that sounds good in the Contents and read out of order; each short chapter is an individual little gem.
The advice is sincere, touches on serious matters and yet remains lighthearted. It is definitely NOT a ''how-to'' or instructional in any way. There''s no advice in how to meet someone. It''s more of a "where are you coming from?" theme, suggestions of things to reflect on before entering into a partnership with someone else. It helps you examine relationship mistakes from past relationships and offers simple checklists of traits you might look for in a new partner, commonalities, etc. It''s exactly what I was looking for; helpful advice to contemplate now while I''m still happily single. I want to be in a healthier mindset so my future relationship will be complimentary to my spiritual path, and that''s just what this book is about.
There was one review I read that says this book isn''t very Buddhist oriented, that there aren''t many canonical references to Buddhist scripture, and complains that a bunch of other spiritual traditions are referenced. To me, this reviewer is "missing the forest through the trees" in a huge way! The book *completely* embodies Buddhism in my opinion, every single piece of advice is consistent with Buddhist teachings, I haven''t found a single thing in the book that is "un-Buddhist" in any way! No, it is not full of a bunch of scripture references from Buddhist sutras, but that wouldn''t fit with the casual lighthearted style of this book and I personally wouldn''t want all those references in this particular type of book. Yes, there are references and tidbits from various other spiritual traditions, Sufism, etc., but when you spend time in Buddhist Sanghas or study groups, that''s common practice; Buddhism welcomes and often references any other spiritual advice that''s in alignment with Buddhist ethics. In any case, that reviewer is of course entitled to their opinion, but I hate to see people get the idea that this is not Buddhist oriented because it absolutely is. It''s just not done in a very blatant, overly obvious manner. I think this is a good thing, so others who may be "spiritually-minded" but not specifically Buddhist can still fully enjoy this book. So keep in mind, it''s not a book about Buddhism, no. But it''s a book about dating from a Buddhist perspective.
I really enjoyed this book and found the advice to be sound and smart. Like a good friend, or a counselor, offering excellent suggestions. I will return to this book again and again.